“Hey ;) I come from a really religious background and family and I am actually deeply religious myself. I am pansexual, and it took me a long time to be as secure in my sexuality as I am, which honestly still scares me. But even worse is that I really secretly love masturbating but it gives me so much guilt, I don’t know what to do. I usually save it and just fap A LOT during my period, but I just wish I could get rid of the guilt, that it wasn’t such a sin to feel so pleasured and good…” - Anon
Hey honey, thanks for your message. Your situation sounds difficult! But, I think it’s actually pretty awesome you’ve started to feel more secure in your sexuality - there must be so many people who never even manage to get that far, y’know?
I think you already secretly know that masturbating isn’t really a sin. It’s just another nice thing like scratching an itch or a hot bath or clicking around for an hour on Tumblr :) It feels really good, and there’s no way that people doing something they enjoy is wrong. It’d be like banning hobbies or daydreaming or laughing.
Also, I think a lot of girls mistake that ‘chilled-out, not-horny-now’ feeling after they’ve done it for guilt? So, like, next time you do it, don’t rush… really take your time enjoying how good you can make yourself feel, and then when you’re all satisfied, kinda try and feel a little pleased with yourself that you’ve made yourself happy? Just a minute of thinking “whew, I just made myself come so hard, that was awesome” rather than “ugh WTF did I just do.”
Anyway, all I’m saying is, sex and sexuality and desire and pleasure are all part of being alive, and they’re awesome, and you shouldn’t be scared. I’m not deeply religious or anything but I figure that life is short and feeling good is definitely a big part of the Plan, y’know?
So, congratulations on your journey so far, I know you’re gonna feel even more secure each day… now, go have lots of delicious fun with yourself, OK? You deserve it ;)